"Few things will wear you down like trying like to control your image in the eyes of other people." ~Pete Wilson
We are relational beings. We crave relationships and interactions with other people. It's natural to want friendship, it really is. The problem with this intense need for acceptance and friendship is that we can lose ourselves. It goes beyond peer pressure. It's so much more than doing something to fit into a click. We're talking about being so desperate to gain acceptance that we drift from peer group to peer group. This is longing so desperately to fit in somewhere, anywhere that we drift from thing to thing, the next group, hobby, job, or place, that could be the one.
It's hard enough to watch someone desperately searching for acceptance, it has to be miserable to be the one searching for it. It's even harder to watch someone on that journey if they're a fellow believer because you're watching someone look for something in all the wrong places.
"So then, those who are in the flesh cannot please God. But you are not in the flesh but in the Spirit, if the Spirit of God dwells in you." ~Romans 8:8-9a
"I do not receive honor from men. But I know you, that you do not have the love of God in you. I have come in My Father's name, and you do not receive Me; if another comes in his own name, him you will receive. How can you believe, who receive honor from one another, and do not seek the honor that comes only from God?" ~John 5:41-44
"For do I persuade men or God? Or do I seek to please men? For if I still pleased men, I would not be a bondservant of Christ." ~Galatians 1:10
"And whatever you do, do it heartily, as to the Lord and not to men, knowing that from the Lord you will receive the reward of inheritance; for you serve the Lord Christ." ~Colossians 3:23-24
It's okay to want acceptance, but we've got to remember that approval and acceptance from God is all that matters. We're not here to to impress others or gain legions of fans. If it happens along the way, that's fine; however, the point here is that we're not here to be accepted by the world or to be superstars. We are here to lead others to Him and we were created for His glory, not ours. We're accepted and adored by Him. How is that not enough? Are our egos so big that having God's approval isn't important enough?
"Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly places in Christ, just as He chose us in Him before the foundation of the world, that we should be holy and without blame before Him in love, having predestined us to adoption as sons by Jesus Christ to Himself, according to the good pleasure of His will, to the praise of the glory of His grace, by which He made us accepted in the Beloved."
Blessed. Chosen. Predestined. Adopted. Accepted in the Beloved. We are loved by God, and not only accepted by Him, but chosen by Him. Stop trying to put on a show for others; rest in the knowledge that you are chosen. Stop this song and dance and be who God has created you to be; know your worth in the eyes of The Almighty. If we're going to be authentic people making a difference for Him, we've got surrender this need for worldly acceptance. After all, we're not here to please the world; it's all about Him.